As promised to Michael, here is the article I referred to in class (and you'll enjoy, Michael, that it was written by a man). It's a short and quick read, so don't be afraid to give it a glance.
It is actually from a chapter in the book Yes Means Yes, which I highly recommend. I think the concepts provided in this particular chapter are really interesting. I took a class in my undergrad about the sociology of intimate relationships, and it was then that I realized how infected my personal life was with social constructions. How can we start to change constructs of what sex is? Maybe I will add it to my curriculum of my future health class seminar.
Robert Jensen writes about how we should conceive of sex not in terms of 'hottness' or 'heat' but in terms of light. (http://uts.cc.utexas.edu/~rjensen/freelance/gaysex.htm) I like it better than the performance model because it accounts for the way in which we are all radiant with light, no matter how often we have 'performed.'
ReplyDeleteYou make an excellent point.
ReplyDeleteI suppose that the part I liked was where it was framed of as a collaborative act. I feel very constrained when sex becomes an act where acts a measured and assigned value and ownership. Which is why I liked the idea of making music together. But when that starts being framed as someone being a better performer, or helping to teach a less experienced performer, it again begins to regress.
Very interesting. Thanks for posting the articles.
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